Jimbo is a cute ginger cat who belongs to a household I was staying at over New Year.
Jimbo is like a lot of cats when somebody new is in the house. He hides.
If he is around when I arrive and I go to stroke him, he will run away.
The more I want to connect with him, the more he will run away.
He likes to do things at his own pace.
The best way to have Jimbo come to me is to just wait or actually to intentionally give him space.
Given a little time, he will become familiar with the sound of my voice and my presence.
He will become curious.
And he will come to me with no effort on my part.
All I need to do is be welcoming when he appears.
Flexibility is the same.
Lots of us are trying to get looser by finding our limits and going beyond them on a regular basis.
The problem with this for some of us is that to our nervous system this feels unsafe.
Our limits are as they currently are primarily to keep us safe.
Pushing beyond them can actually, over time, make us even tighter.
The nervous system 'tightens the best' to minimise what it perceives as threat.
If this has happened to you, you're best adopting something like the Jimbo approach.
Instead of trying to force the increase in flexibility that you want, back off from your limits.
Do nothing that threatens your system.
Your best way forward will be to explore the movements you can make well within the bounds of your current flexibility and just make them more novel.
Change the angles of your movements and their emphasises all without every going near those limits.
Over time, you will find that the movements within your limits will become even easier and your limits will actually expand without ever going near them.
Like putting out cat food for Jimbo, you will easily coax more flexibility out of yourself.
This will work wonders for those of you who stretching does nothing for.
Arton "Don't scare your cat away" Baleci